WHAT KIND OF LOVER ARE YOU?
(A quiz for women)
We all express in different ways sexually, and yearn for different things. Knowing what kind of archetypal lover you are can help you understand why you fall in love (or don't), why things go wrong, and how to keep yourself emotionally safe as well as sexually fulfilled. So what kind of archetypal lover are you and what do you need to know in order to thrive in sexual relationships?
You are a DAUGHTER OF APHRODITE
As a Daughter of Aphrodite, one of the gifts you bring to sexual relationships (and all of life) is sensuality and abandon. Pleasure is not a luxury - it's lifeblood for you. You love to experience pleasure AND to give it. You tend to fall in love quickly and to naturally adore your lovers. You are a garden of delight, and you love to love. The trick is to choose wisely. Your nature is to adore and to bring pleasure, but when you turn your gift for adoration towards partners who are not worthy of it, it can lead you into heartbreak and devastation.
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You are the VIRGIN LOVER
The Virgin Lover is often misunderstood, especially by herself. As a Virgin Lover, your erotic nature is often expressed in ways that are not explicitly sexual. You have a refined sense of pleasure and connection, and you neither need nor always desire sex. You thrive on beauty, purity, and the eroticism of connections that are soul to soul, mind to mind, heart to heart, not just body to body. The challenge for you is to honor that "the erotic" is not at all only explicitly sexual. The erotic is what opens you, what you love, what brings you into authentic connection with a lover.
You are a LOVER QUEEN
The Lover Queen carries herself with dignity and places a high value on honor. As a Lover Queen, who you choose to share your sexuality with very much depends on whether their values align with yours, whether or not you respect who they are in the world, and if you feel cherished by them. You sure do love chivalry in all its forms. Disrespect, indifference, and failure to uphold your values are absolute deal breakers. You embody and strive for empowerment as a woman and as a sexual being. Much of that empowerment has been hard won. The challenge for you is two fold. Lover Queens out of balance will either criticize and push love away because nothing is ever quite good enough, or they will over extend themselves, making up for what a partner lacks in empowerment with their own personal power, emotional maturity, even money.
You are a SHADOW LOVER
The Shadow Lover is a powerful being, comfortable in the chaos, conflict, passion and dynamism of transformative sexual relationships. As a Shadow Lover, you often find yourself in relationships that are passionate, but turbulent. You may have experienced one or more relationships that were marred by emotional abuse, addiction, and power struggles. You grow through relationship, and you expect your partners to do the same. You thrive on excitement, emotional fire, and deep transformation. Your challenge is to choose and cultivate a sexual relationship that offers passion without so much chaos. You can have the depth and fire and dynamism without all the repetitive conflict, all the push and pull, all the emotional dynamics that ultimately leave you sad, alone, and stuck.
You are a WILD LOVER
The Wild Lover thrives on the natural, the free, the untamed and undomesticated. "Wild" in this case doesn't refer to getting wasted and dancing on tables. Wild for the Wild Lover is a natural state, an untamed state, a state of freedom. As a Wild Lover you are drawn to sexual relationships in which you feel natural and free, where sexuality is a natural and healthy part of your togetherness, and where nature is very much a part of your erotic life. The challenge for the Wild Lover is to understand and respect the ways in which sexuality is not always simple and free. It is important for your wellbeing to choose lovers that are not just natural and free, but also wise and emotionally mature enough to really care for you.
You are a PRIESTESS LOVER
The Priestess Lover touches the sacred in lovemaking. As a Priestess Lover, lovemaking is a form of worship, even in its most explicitly erotic expressions. You have often touched states of ecstasy, soul-mate connections, you may even say experiences of "God." You have also often been absolutely devastated by the breaking apart or ending of these experiences. Your highest states of lovemaking are extraordinary and very much outside of the narrow definitions of what "sex" is. You often experience that a presence much bigger than just you or you lover is present. The challenge for you is to navigate the tension between the beauty you experience and the reality of all the gritty, vulnerable complexity that sexual intimacy creates; your ability to see the soul (or the highest) in your lover, and the flawed reality of who your lover really is. Priestess Lovers often find themselves devastated and lost when they realize the lover they've been exalting and serving for so long is not at all who they perceived them to be.
The best lover you ever had was amazing because:
Your biggest disappointment with sexuality is:
Your sexual relationships are often limited or ended by:
You love a partner who:
Which of the following would be the most erotic foreplay for you?
Your sexual relationships tend to go out of balance in which way:
Your greatest sexual experiences have been:
Which of these is the biggest turn off (or red flag) in a partner?
What are you least proud of in your sexual history:
Choose one word for what you want sexuality to be: